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I have been thinking and praying for a true response to your questions. Whitney revealed a “surprise,” when she wrote your family is “finding peace with what might come.” She is an empathetic witness to suffering but also a sufferer. Maybe that is part of the contradiction? If we are witnesses we need to accept the reality of our own suffering. The next step in that process is finding peace with whatever comes, not worrying over every imagined option but living in this moment. We have to accept what is real, accept our own powerlessness, and be willing to make peace with it as best we can. For me that means praying about it, thanking God for what is good this moment and accepting that it isn’t all good. Thanking God for God’s presence through it all - peace, presence, acceptance. You have done this hard thing and shared it. Thank you!

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Thank you for this post. Once again your words resonate deeply as I'm facing my own presumed recurrence. As a psychologist, bearing witness and being present for others are some of the most meaningful parts of my life, aside from being a mom. As a person with a brain tumor, Being vulnerable and revealing my own humanity has been hard and beyond humbling. I love your perspectives as they give voice to some of my own experiences and the many contradictions therein. I'm trying to turn my feelings of loss into joy for the experiences my life has brought. Rather than feeling the need to constantly "fight" I'm focusing on being still and finding peace. Again?, thank you.

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